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Beyond Praise: How Competence Builds Real Confidence in Children, According to Viral Parenting Advice
In a recent viral video from parenting influencer Pat Barber, known as 'thefathersguild,' a compelling argument is made for a shift in modern parenting approaches. The video, which has garnered significant attention, posits that true confidence in children is cultivated through the development of competence rather than excessive praise. Barber illustrates this philosophy by showcasing his children engaging in a diverse range of activities, from outdoor adventures like digging and snowboarding to everyday tasks such as cooking and tidying. "Competence builds confidence, not praise," states the voice-over in the video, challenging the common practice of constantly telling children they are 'amazing.' Instead, the content suggests that parents should focus on helping children acquire practical skills, whether it's navigating a bike track, swimming laps, or contributing to household chores. According to Barber, these experiences, even if they require a multi-year process of modeling and guided participation, ultimately lead to a more self-assured and capable individual. The video highlights the importance of fostering self-reliance and the satisfaction that comes from mastering tasks, regardless of their perceived complexity.
